Anxiously Ambitious

Lil Nas X and the Performance of Success

Janette Downie

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What happens when success starts to feel like a performance instead of a life you actually want to live?

In this solo episode, I reflect on a recent headline about Lil Nas X and what it reveals about the impossible standards we place on celebrities, on each other, and on ourselves.

When he faltered publicly, the world turned his humanity into entertainment. But beneath the scandal was a simple truth: he was overwhelmed, fragile, and apologizing for being seen in his lowest moment. And haven’t we all done that?

This episode is about the quiet ways we exile parts of ourselves in the name of ambition. It’s about the performance of success versus the presence of being human. And it’s about what changes when we stop apologizing for our fragility and start honoring it as part of the whole.

In this episode, I explore:

  •  Why we turn breakdowns into gossip and what that says about us
  •  How we other ourselves by hiding the parts of us we don’t think “belong” in success
  •  The silent deal we’ve all absorbed
  •  Why grace isn’t optional in business or life 
  •  The radical power of letting success and humanity coexist

If you’ve ever felt like your ambition demanded you hide the most fragile parts of yourself, this one is going to land deep.

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